One of the best things about having all these cool kids games is sharing them with friends and with your children’s friends as well. Our daughter’s are friends with another couple’s two children of the same age and they all came over for a spontaneous game night the other night. We had a blast and played a number of different games way past the kids’ normal bedtime.
Putting together a game night, even a spontaneous one, takes a little careful thought and it should go off smoothly. The first thing is to not put any extra expectations onto the children. While getting together with other adults is nice, the point is to play some games with the children. Keep your expectations relaxed, let the children dictate the mood of the night. We remind our two daughters that when their friends come over to let them pick the first activity or to suggest something that they might like rather than dictating what they will be doing. The same thing held true for our little game night. Simone held back and Jenna had clear ideas on what she wanted to play, Ghost Chase.
Be prepared to act as a coach for new gamers. Jenna had played Ghost Chase before, but it had been a while. I pulled some of the more confusing rules out of the game and her dad and Simone acted as the chasers. Jenna did a great job figuring out the strategy and only needed confirmation from me that what she was doing was a good move. As she grew more confident in her decisions, her game play improved and she eventually won the game. Sportsmanship is important to us and Simone was genuinely happy for Jenna that she won on the first game.
Older children’s gaming needs really depend on their experience playing these modern boardgames. The more they play them, the easier it is for them to learn new ones and figure out strategies to be successful at them. Simone and Jenna are great friends and have played a number of modern games before. Jenna was quick to peruse our shelves and pick out some things that Simone loves to play.
You can have some ideas on what should hit the table and prepare the game if necessary. I knew that the group would love to play Nacht der Magier, which is a dexterity game that you play in the dark. Key pieces glow in the dark and I had them under the lights for a while before suggesting it and they were all charged up and ready to play.
Your children may desert you though, which really is the goal I suppose. Simone and Jenna went off on their own. I had thought they were done with games and were going to play with their American Girl dolls. Nope! They tried out two games without any help. One that they did try was not really a two player game, but Simone went through the rules and they seemed to enjoy it. They played two rounds of Castle Keep as well. It was nice to see them pick out some games and stay with the idea that is was a game night. Be prepared to allow them to change activities. You don’t want them to be forced to play games as if it were some chore. I think finishing a game is important and so is putting it away nicely. Once they are done though, allow them to be done. They will come back to you for more eventually.
Younger children need more direction though and Chris had Camille and Jake playing Froggie Boogie pretty quickly. If you are gaming with younger ones, only give them two options to start, keep the suggestions to short games as their attention spans may not last as long as they normally do when you are playing with them alone.
There are many games out there that can play in under 10 minutes. The two of them were able to run around a bit, come play a game with their moms and then run around some more. Also, be ready to modify rules to make them simpler and keep the games short. Keeping rules to a minimum will help a young gamer enjoy the essence of the game and you can slowly add rules as they become more experienced.
Snacks. Have them handy, but keep them away from the table! While modern games are relatively inexpensive on an hourly basis, you don’t want to have some spill damage some of these meeples and boards. The production quality is truly amazing in games like Giro Galoppo and some games with cards, like Ghost Chase, could become ruined in an apple juice flood. If it does happen, try to keep calm and have paper towels handy. Not sure if I could always do that myself, but I try to remember it!
The main point is to have some fun with your children and their friends, and even their friend’s parents. Once the kids are done playing, it becomes a great time for adult conversation over tasty beverages.
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